In this episode, we discuss how if you want to have a better life, start tolerating the things that will get you a better life.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how we get what we tolerate. This applies to your health, your relationships, your career, pretty much everything. If you can tolerate going to the gym and striving to eat well and get a good night’s sleep, then you’re going to receive the benefits of those activities.
For myself, I love to read, and I’m willing to tolerate this activity so I gain all the wisdom. If you’re not going to tolerate certain conversations, then you’re not going those conversations in your life. I think as people, we have to decide how much of something we’re going to take.
If you tolerate going to a job that you hate going to, that is what you’re going to get. If you can tolerate a relationship that isn’t filling up your cup, then that is what you’re going to get. The world is not a mind reader and it’s going to try to give you what it’s offering but for the most part, that means following someone else’s dream.
In life, you have to know who you want to be in life and be the person that you want to be in life. And to help you understand the type of person you need to be and then actually be that person, you have to tolerate doing growth activities and be comfortable with uncertainty and losses.
I’m not going to tolerate going back to a regular 9-5 job. If I tolerate that job, then I’m going to a stable paycheck as long as the company does well and I’ll get benefits but what I’ll be missing out on is creating my own thing and being the person I want to be. I don’t want to work for someone else, so I have to tolerate being a business owner.
I have to tolerate the uncertainty of not getting a client for the day, I have to deal with the uncertainty of figuring out stuff as they come up, and a bunch of other stuff, but the reward for tolerating this stuff for me is control and autonomy over my life. This is what I want so I’m going to tolerate the entrepreneur lifestyle.
Same thing with your relationships with friends, co-workers, acquaintances, family, and significant other. What you tolerate from these people, is what you’re going to get. So either you can take them as they are or you can try to raise their standards by setting a good example for yourself.
To set your own standard, you’re going to need courage. It can be hard to stand up for yourself but the more you do it, the easier it’s going to be. Just remember that a missed mistake lowers the standard. So every time you tolerate the lower standard, that is what you’re going to get and it’s going to take work to raise that standard.
To help you understand what you should tolerate and how high your standards should be, you just have to know yourself and what you want and need out of life, the go out and create it. Then if things enter your life that is not up to your standard, you can either get that thing to be of a higher standard or you just remove it from your life so you can focus on the stuff that matters to you.
So understanding what you should tolerate is going to be kept in your development, so you want to change something in your life, you probably need to raise your standards and find something else that you can tolerate. I couldn’t tolerate being in the military anymore so I got out. I wasn’t going to be able to change the military and I saw that I could create something larger outside of the military, so that was the path I followed. Now I am much happier because I’m doing the stuff that I tolerate in my life and it gives me a lot of purposes. I’m not sacrificing who I want to be and this is exactly how I want my life to be, and this gives me a joy that I’ve never experience before and don’t want to lose.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, you get what you tolerate. So figure out the life that you want to have with your career, relationships, and lifestyle, then figure out what you need to tolerate in order to obtain those things. It’s probably going to uncomfortable and you’re going to face rejection as you move towards the life you desire, but it’s what’s required. If you can’t tolerate these uncomfortable things, then you’re life is going to stay the same and be filled with things that you don’t truly enjoy. Life is short and the goal of life is not to exist for 100 years but to live for those 100 years. So if you want to live life, raise your standards, and execute. Do this and I think you can have a pretty great life. And if you need help, then ask for help.
So in your journal, ask yourself, what is something that you’re tolerating in life that you shouldn’t tolerate anymore? Do you need to raise your standards in an area of your life? How can you raise your standards? Are you satisfied with your standards? The goal is to see what you should and shouldn’t do with your life. If you can spend more time on the stuff you enjoy, then life will be good but this requires work. So put in the work and start growing.
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