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  • The Power Of Positive Thinking

    In this episode, we discuss how to use positive thinking to help you out during your day and what are some pitfalls that can happen if you’re too positive. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the power of positive thinking. I like to think of myself as positive but realistic. If someone wants to do something, I don’t want to put them down but I also want to make sure that they have a plan. If a financial planning client came to me and said they want to quit their job to start a business, I would just say congrats, and do you need anything from me and have you thought about this and this.
    In life, you need to take calculated risks and positive think will help you see opportunities and go after them. If I was to be negative, I would not have the last five years in this business. I would have been like, what’s the use and then found something with more security but less fulfilling and control over my situation.
    You can be irrational with you positive thinking if you’re ignoring the danger signs but what I like about positive thinking is that you see opportunities because you’re keeping an open mind. There is a famous book out there called the secret and I haven’t read it or watched the documentary on Netflix, but it’s about putting what you want out in the world, and then the world will give you what you want.
    I don’t think it’s as easy as that for most people but it can be as easy as that for some people. But what I think about it is now that you put what you want out in the world, now you’re scanning your environment for something that will help you get you what you want. It’s kind of like buying or wanting a car like an Audi, then all of a sudden, you start seeing a lot of Audis on the road.
    Most likely it’s not because more people are buying Audis, it’s because you’re just more aware of them now. So when you’re positive with your thinking, you’re looking for silver linings, lessons to get better, and opportunities to get better.
    Plus positive thinking can get you past those difficult moments in life. I know when I’m having a difficult time, I just like to tell myself, no matter how hard it is, or how hard it will be, I will get through it. Of course, sometimes you need to pivot on your plans because things have changed, but most of the time you just need to keep going and positive thinking will help out a lot more than negative thinking.
    Negative thinking can be useful but you have to know when it is useful. But most of the time you should be positive with your thinking, more people are going to want to be around and it’s just more helpful in more scenarios. Plus it gives you hope to do better and be better as a person. If everyone decided to do nothing but negative thinking, then we wouldn’t progress as a society. It’s a balance though because some ideas just need to end.
    So to help you stay positive, I would focus more on gratitude. When you show gratitude towards the things in your life, you can see more of the world’s beauty. Like this morning, I went for a walk and was grateful for the view I saw this morning. I was surrounded by trees and plants and clean air. Now I want to do great things so that I can see more of the beauty in the world. If I said that outside sucks and I’m just going to stay inside, I’m limiting my experiences and my opportunities in the world.
    So in my journal every day, I write three things I’m grateful for so I don’t forget to be positive and also realize that if there are negative things in my day, I still have positive things in my life to have a great life. Then this gives me the motivation to work on my goals and live my best life possible. I’ve been doing this for the past eight years and life has never been better.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, indulge in the power of positive thinking. It will set you up for more success and opportunities in your life. You don’t want to be irrational with your positive thinking either, so make sure that you’re moving in the right direction for yourself and positive thinking can help move in that direction when you face bumps in the road. Most of the time you want a growth mindset vs a fixed mindset because reality is negotiable and you can get the life you want if you do the right things and have the right attitude.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, do you participate enough in positive thinking? Do you participate in too much positive thinking where you’re not addressing issues? How can you show more gratitude in your life so you can be in the habit of positive thinking? Are you too negative in some scenarios? Are not negative enough? This is a balance and I feel like you need both to live a great life. So look at your life and see what needs to change so you can live the life that you want to live.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have me answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • The Best Way To Eat An Elephant

    In this episode, we discuss the best strategies to tackle big tasks. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the best way to eat an elephant. And the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. The quote is about doing things in chunks and how we shouldn’t focus on the entire problem. Just start on one area and start getting to work.
    One of the worst things I hate in life is packing, but I just tell myself that I’m going to start in this area, and just focus on this area until it is complete. Then I’ll move on to something else. That’s how I accomplished my last couple of moves and this is the same strategy I use in other parts of my life.
    Just focus on the smallest piece that I can accomplish, then work on that piece until it’s done. Then you just move to the next thing. You don’t need to eat an elephant in one day, it can take you a week, a month, a year, or a decade to finish eating your elephant but you just need to get started.
    Then I find that once you start getting momentum, then eating the next piece gets a little bit easier. It’s like the quote, you don’t have to be great to get started, you just have to get start to be great. But also realize that some elephants require you to start as early as possible. If I was to wait until the day before moving day to start packing, I’m going to fail. There is not enough time in the day to get everything done, because when we fail to plan, we plan to fail.
    I know that I don’t want to be a failure, so this is why I plan out my future. I pretty much know what I want to accomplish over the next five years and what I need to do. It’s going to be a lot of work trying to build up my own financial planning firm, but I’m just going to take it one day at a time, and do what I can. Sometimes that requires me to rest but most of the time it requires me to get to work on the things that will get me the future that I desire.
    So I’m just going to start working on eating my elephant, and this is all I can do. Or this is all I want to do because I know once I eat my elephant, then I’m going to have the life that I desire and I’m going to make the change in the world that I desire as well. This is going to require me to live a few years of my life like most people won’t, so eventually, I can live the rest of my life like most people can’t.
    Has my journey been difficult, yeah, but I can’t see myself doing anything else in life and I feel that when I accomplish tough things, then it gives me a lot of joy and satisfaction? When I was in Marines and going through boot camp, if you just focused on the entire three months, then you would go crazy, but the way a lot of Marines did their times, was just go from chow to chow. I would wake up, get ready in the morning while being yelled at, then we would head to the chow hall, and then we would train and just think about making it to lunch, then after lunch, just thought about making it to dinner. Then all of sudden your three months was up and then you’re a Marine.
    I tell everyone, you can be a Marine, you just have to say yes to getting on the plane and the drill instructors will take care of the rest. They will ensure that you eat your elephant one bite at a time. It won’t always be joyful, but you will accomplish something amazing and will be a better person for it. I believe life is about challenging yourself to do a little bit better every day, and if you do this for long enough, you’re going to be unstoppable and accomplish any task that comes your way. Then live your best life.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. So if you have a big goal or task that you want to accomplish, just focus on the smallest thing that needs to be accomplished, and then do that, then once that is done, then move onto the next thing. But also you have plenty of time ahead of you so you finish your task on time. If moving is going to take 40 hours, just make sure you spend 3 hours a day for 14 days packing, and you will be done. Or find a friend to help split up your time. I believe that there is nothing in life that can’t change with enough persistence, so understand why you’re eating this elephant and that should help you keep going.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is a big task that you have in front of you? What is the first thing that you should do to get started? Is the thing you’re working on the most important thing to do? Have you tried creating a Gantt Chart to help with your progress? If you don’t know what a Gantt chart is, I highly recommend that you look it up. It will definitely help you with accomplishing your goals. Also, ask yourself, is there anything that I’m confused about doing or scared of doing to help me reach my goals? What is causing you to feel this way? Sometimes our own self-limiting beliefs hold us back from trying to eat the elephant, so just explore your thoughts and feelings as well.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • To Convince A Man That He Does Wrong, Do Right

    In this episode, we discuss how it’s not much use to convince a person they are doing wrong. They need to see with their eyes what good is. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the Henry David Thoreau quote, if you want to convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see. This quote is about setting the example and letting the other person come to realize that they are doing wrong. When people are able to internalize their actions and see that it’s not up to standard, then they can change their ways.
    Now there are three types of incentives that can cause people to change their behavior and they are financial, social, and moral ones. This quote is about affecting social and moral incentives. If you want to be a good neighbor, then act like a good neighbor and set the example. There was a study done that wanted to see what was the best way to reduce energy consumption.
    The electricity company sent out different flyers like discounts on saving money, messages about saving the environment, and one the ranked their energy consumption against other people in their neighborhood. And the one that worked the best was the flyer that compared the other person to their peers.
    Now, this was social cue to do better. So if you want a better community, do things that will create a better community. If you want a better relationship, do things that create a better relationship. And if you want to end social injustices, do something that will remove those social injustices. This is going to be work and requires effort. It’s easy to wish somebody would do better, but you have to show them what excellence looks like. The other person has to see it with their eyes.
    To nag at someone is not going to be that effective. And by setting the example, you can affect the moral and social incentives that will get people to act the right way because the other person sees with their eyes on what the right thing to do is.
    One of the reasons why I hated being in the Marines, was the hypocrisy that I saw with my superiors. They would be late, not do their work, and just be a jerk sometimes, and as someone with lower rank, you can’t really fight that person or argue with them without the fear of getting in trouble. Then their behavior made me not work to work as hard. This takes a lot of work to set the example but it’s required to make the world a better place. The worst thing we can do is be a hypocrite in the situation and expect other people to do better when you’re not willing to put the work in yourself.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, to convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see. Not of things are changing with the protests because there are a lot of people out their who want to change the standard. I can’t believe the confederate flag is being removed from a lot of places like NASCAR and military bases. Those institutions are setting an example. So let’s hope more positive change happens and if you want that in your life, have high standards for yourself and do the work within your community to affect that change. Which reminds of me the Marcus Aurelius quote, don’t argue what a good man should be, be one. This is all it takes to make things better.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, What is an area of your life that needs to be improved? How can you raise your standards to get a better outcome? How can use one or three of the incentives, which are financial, social, or moral, to help you get what you want? Are you mentally strong enough to set the high standard? If not, what can you do to be stronger? There is no use trying to convince a person that they should change, they need to see it themselves, so set example and let the other people know that this is what the example should be. If we all did this, then we can make our lives, community, nation, and the world a better place.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • Pride Makes Us Artificial, Humility Makes Us Real

    In this episode, we discuss how being too prideful can hold us back from accomplishing great things, and it’s humility that will get us to new heights. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real. I was in the Marines for seven years and we are a breed of folks that take a lot of pride in the fact that we joined the Marines. It has the toughest boot camp of all the branches, we’re the smallest branch, we tend to have to do more with less, but the Marines are typically the first to fight, the tip of the spear as we like to say.
    Even though I’m a Marine, I will give someone the benefit of the doubt and the ability to prove themselves before I dismiss them. An A player is 36 times more valuable than a B player. One person can really do the work of ten people and if that person was in the Air Force, I would gladly accept them on my team.
    When it comes to the Air Force and the Marines, and for the Army and Navy as well, we like to rag on the Air Force by calling them Chair Force because they tend to not go into the field and train. They’re in an office capacity. I was in an office capacity myself, being a Supply Administrator so I don’t have too much leeway. But if I came across someone from the Army, Navy, or Air Force, and they were an A player, I would gladly accept them.
    It would be foolish of me to dismiss their skill just because they wore a different uniform. So I need to have the humility to accept them into my circle, or otherwise, I might find them a formidable opponent. And instead of trying to destroy each other, we can work together to create something amazing.
    It’s good to be confident and take pride in your work because they typically mean that you’re going to create amazing things, but you can take it too far and then your pride can become a liability. That why we need to have the humility to know when we need help and who we should have as an ally.
    Plus if someone from the other branches wanted some help, I would help them out because they are not my enemy, and hopefully, if I needed help, they would offer the same thing instead of discriminate against me. That would just make me feel awful and I don’t want to do the same thing against someone else.
    I just finished a book about Air Force Colonel John Boyd and he helped revolutionized the Marines Land Fighting abilities by adopting the OODA Loop and allowing small units to make decisions based on the current information instead of waiting on orders from above. John Boyd’s theories about warfare allowed the Marines to take over Grenada with ease and helped the US win Desert Storm quickly as well. If the Marines never would have had the humility to allow John Boyd to speak with them, then the Marines would still be stuck in 1970 thinking and that’s not good. Too much pride makes you live in the past while humility gives you the ability to grow. And in life, you want to keep growing if you want to be successful.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, pride makes us artificial and humility makes us really like as Thomas Merton said. Once again I don’t know who this is but I like the quote. And over the past couple of months, we have had a lot of protest over social injustices and inequalities with the black lives matter movement. I would chalk a lot of this tension to people being too prideful and not having enough humility. Just one of the many issues that we need to solve in order to make the world a better place. But I would say it’s good to be prideful but makes sure it’s rational. Pride can give you the motivation to keep going and to give your full effort, but if you only rely on pride, it’s won’t take you as far as you could go with humility. Like always, there is a balance, so know when to be prideful and when to show humility. The right balance can help you reach new heights in life and live a pretty good one as well.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, are you having too much pride where it’s clouding your judgment? What are some of the benefits that the other person or thing can provide? Are you sharing your real feelings about the situation? How can you show humility in the situation? Can you show gratitude or vulnerability to make yourself more real in the situation? Do you know have enough pride in certain parts of your life? Just take a look at your life and see where you need to show more pride and where you need to show more humility. And then just keep experimenting with your day so you find the right balance. Probably going to take a while and you will make a mistake but at least you’re growing in the right direction.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • If The Grass Is Always Greener On The Other Side Its Probably Fake

    In this episode, we discuss that we should know what we are chasing in life because if we don’t, we might find out the thing we were chasing wasn’t worth it. 

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how if the grass is always greener on the other side, it’s probably fake. In today’s media landscape, it’s real easy to take a photo in front of a fancy car or jet and associate yourself with that success, without having that success.
    I recently watched a video on Youtube, where they were going over the show MTV Cribs and how people like 50 Cent, Bow Wow, and JoJo, didn’t own all the stuff that was shown at their crib. JoJo didn’t even own the home that she was at, while 50 Cent and Bow Wow didn’t own any of the vehicles. They were rented to show the illusion of success.
    As a financial planner, when you get to see someone’s budget, assets, and liabilities, you can get a pretty good picture of who is trying to maintain fake grass and who is not. I used to work at the Pentagon and White House and before those experiences, I thought they would be extra special than what they were. Yeah, you can get to experience some cool stuff, but you don’t see all the other work that goes into running these two buildings.
    No one has a perfect life and there are issues that people are dealing with. Someone that has a lot of assets, might have trouble with their family and don’t maintain a strong bond. Of course, there are certain problems you want to have over others, but don’t assume that everything is good.
    Debt is something that could be causing fake grass as well. I used to live in DC and would wonder how people maintain their lifestyles, and I could run a budget and see how they were living in my head, and I could see that their paycheck is not keeping up with their lifestyle. It reminds of the saying we spend money that we don’t have to impress people that we don’t even like. Or it could be the case that we’re trying to keep up with people who have more resources than us. Both are fatal.
    Right now, I’m living as a digital nomad, and not everything is perfect. You have to deal with loneliness at times because you’re in a new country and don’t understand the language completely. You might choose the wrong Airbnb. I accumulating business debt from my last business that I’m still trying to pay off. So it helps to live in a country like Colombia because it’s so cheap to live here and I can focus on school and my business. I hope no one thinks my journey is easy and completely stress-free because they are things in my life that give me stress and worries that I need to deal with.
    There are a lot of things in the world where you think it would be nice to have their life but you really don’t. To be a celebrity that can’t go to the local coffee shop without being hassled probably has a lot of cool things in their life but that doesn’t mean they are completely miserable in other parts of their lives. I remember hearing a story of an actress winning the Oscar, and after the show, she just showed up to empty home with this huge reward. So winning huge rewards might not give you the satisfaction in life either because you have other empty things in your life.
    There are plenty of ways to design a good life or a fake life, it will be better for your sanity if you can design the good life and that might mean some trade-offs. Just now what is important to you and what’s not important, and start designing a life that removes the unimportant stuff and adds more of the important stuff to your life.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it if the grass is always greener on the other side, it’s probably fake. I look at the bosses that I had in the past, and I can say I didn’t want to there on life. I had one boss that traveled so much from office to office that he said one time he fell at the wheel. I don’t care how much money, I’m getting paid, I don’t want to die in a car because I was working too hard. Luckily he was alright and nothing happened, but that experience served as a reminder to me to be careful of what I chase. And if you chase the fake grass, it’s going to cause you to harm sooner or later.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is about a certain lifestyle that you crave? Does it seem like their life is problem-free? Do you think all your problems will go away if you obtain this thing? What are all the good things and bad things about this thing you desire? Could somebody be faking the results for you? Just ask questions about the situation that you desire and see if it fits within your values and principles. We only have one life to live, so let’s make sure we use our time correctly by chasing things that will truly make us happy.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • In Charge But Not In Control

    In this episode, we discuss how in life, there are a lot of things that we’re not in control of, but we can be in charge of the general direction things go in.

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how in life we are in charge but not in control of the situation. Right now, there is a lot of uncertainty in the world with covid-19 and the racial tensions that are happening in the US now. I’m recording this podcast from Colombia and it’s a weird feeling to think Im safer here in Colombia than in the United States.
    I never would have thought that this would be the case. I’m still trying to run a business and I’m trying to figure out how can I be sensitive to the situation but also figure out a way that I can grow myself out of this situation that also helps out others.
    I don’t know how to save the entire world but I do know what I can do to save my slice of the world. That is what I can be in charge of. I can’t be control of every aspect of what’s going on in my life but I can do things to influence others to make better choices and hopefully be a better person because that should be our main job in life.
    The definition of that is going to depend on what you what out of the world so I guess the first thing you got to ask yourself, what do you want to do this world. For myself, I want to build up my financial planning and development coaching business to help more Latinos take control of their money.
    And there are a lot of things that I can’t control as I work towards this goal. Right now, I’m in Medellin, Colombia and I’ve had setbacks in what I wanted to accomplish. At my last two Airbnbs, there was a lot of construction going on and it was hard to record videos during the day. Some days, the internet was terrible and I couldn’t do my Facebook Lives, then all of a sudden Zoom wants to be difficult and not do Facebook Lives anymore. I keep getting this 403 error and I’ve been waiting almost three weeks on an answer from zoom on how to fix this. All this was happening while covid-19 was happening and now there are riots and protests going on in the US and I’m wondering how much I should focus on what I do.
    There are a lot of things I can’t control right now but I’m in charge of the success of my life. I’ve spent time writing in my journal, I’ve read books, I did my MBA school work, I worked on my podcast, and been working with my clients to ensure they are on track for their goals. I’m trying to take charge of my development and the development of my clients.
    There are going to be obstacles but we need to take charge of the situation and focus on what we can control. l. I can’t control the government, the economy, and other people, but I can do things when I’m in charge of my success and the success of my clients. One of the things I did to take control of the situation was to offer pro-bono work to people who have questions about financial planning. This might be an investment question, a budget question, an insurance question, an inheritance question, and tons of other questions that I can answer and bring some type of peace of mind to their lives.
    This helps me save my slice of the world and also helps me get better as a financial advisor.
    There are plenty of things we can do to get ourselves out of this current hole but the first step we need to take charge and come with a game plan to make things better. We can’t pass the buck on this one because things rarely get better for ourselves when we take a passive approach. There might be somethings that need to go on the back burner because they are not as important as other things.
    So focus on what is important and just try to save your slice of the world in this moment.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, we’re in charge but not in control of most things in this world. So we need to develop a game plan to help us get the outcome we want that is probably going to need many different strategies to help you accomplish your goals. We can’t control the externals stuff completely like the economy, people, and governments, but we can take control of how to react to those external things and this will put us in charge. Remember, casualness leads to casualties. So figure how you need to take control of the situation and start getting to work.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is something that needs to be accomplished in life and how can you be in charge of the situation? What do you need to do to take extreme ownership of the situation? Do you need to have an uncomfortable conversation with someone? Do you need to coordinate resources to ensure things will work smoothly? Do you need to ask for assistance? Do you need to delegate some tasks so you have more free time to work on the important things? When it comes to obstacles in life, we can’t go around them, we must go through them and we can do that by taking charge of our success.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
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  • Big Things Start Small

    In this episode, we discuss how to need to be patient with our goals because big things start small and require a lot of attention to grow. 

    Full Transcritp

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how big things start small. I was recently watching a Frontline special about Jeff Bezos and he said this line when he was talking about Space Travel.
    He thinks it’s necessary to do space travel because the world has a finite amount of resources but a growing population. This is his main motivation for growing Amazon into a bigger and bigger company so he can fund his space travel passion.
    If you look on online, or in the show notes at growwithjoe.me/episode 275, you can see a photo of Jeff Bezos back in the 90s working at his desk. His desk a door that is placed on two workhorses and on the wall is a poster board with amazon.com in blue spray paint.
    If you were to ask people 25 years ago where Amazon would be in 2020, no one would have predicted it’s position in the world except for Jeff Bezos. He would tell you it was a lot of hard work with a lot of experiments that didn’t work out. But this is what is required to turn small things into big things.
    This is the way I see my life. I feel like I came from a humble background, but I’ve constantly been experimenting with my life and working hard on developing myself and my resources. I had to lose a lot of weight as a kid, I worked hard on getting good grades, I went into the Marines and did night school, I did a study abroad in Mexico, I moved to Washington to DC, and eventually I started my own company that does financial planning and development coaching.
    While I was working at a financial planner at my last firm, I had to learn a lot of a person and how to make a business successful. I had to learn sales, I had to learn marketing, I had to learn to be confident when I interacted with my clients, I had to learn how to do business taxes, and I had to learn a lot of other things.
    Then eventually I saw that I wanted to see a difference in the financial services industry that catered more Latinos. And in order to do this, I needed to start my own company. I’m about a year into my new business and I’m started to see my company grow. I see the next moves I need to make to help me reach my ultimate goal of hiring more Latino Financial Advisors.
    As I’m recording this podcast episode, I’m five and half years in the profession as a financial advisor and I’ve doing self-development work for about 8 and I’m super proud of where I am today and where I am going because I’m being true to myself, I’m not compromising who I want to me in life and I’m progressing in the right direction.
    I definitely want to do big things for myself and others because it’s going to make the world a better place, but we have to remember that big things start off small. And it’s going to take time and energy to grow something small into something big. So be patient and just follow the process.
    I have a list of things that I have to do every day in order to turn my small thing into something larger. Some days are better than others but I’ve been consistent and you also have to overcome the obstacles that come your way. Things are simple to do but they are not easy like I said in yesterday’s podcast episode.
    It can be hard to be patient but when I think about what I’m working towards, it gives me the motivation to keep going. Plus in my journal every day, I write down the ten goals want I want to accomplish in life and what is it going to take to make the goals a reality. Then when I time blocks my day, I make sure I’m doing activities that will help me reach my goals. If I don’t do the activities that will progress me forward, then I’m really just wasting my time and we have to understand that we won’t get more time in the future, so make sure you’re using your time wisely and this should live to a fulfilling life.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, big things start small. Whatever your goal is, that goal might be big to you and you just have to realize that you will start off with something small and you will work your way towards that big thing. On a daily basis, you have to know what small thing you’re trying to turn into a big thing. Where ever you direct your time and energy at, is what is going to grow and get better at. So make sure you’re doing those activities that will turn your small thing into a big thing. And also make sure that is what you really want in life. It’s also important to know if there is a better way. One reason why I left my company is that they were slow on adopting new technology and business methods. I saw a better way of doing business and now I’m doing it. This is taking time but it’s what I want to do for the rest of my life and since I have this passion, I can endure turning my small thing into something larger. Can you say the same about yourself?
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is a small thing that you want to turn into a big thing. The size of the big thing doesn’t have to be gigantic, it just has to be bigger than how it started. Then ask yourself, what is necessary to do today, to help start building this small thing into a big thing? What is it important to turn this small thing into a big thing? Are there better ways to turn this small thing into a bigger thing that people are not aware of? Just figure out what you need to do and start doing it.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
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  • It’s Hard To See The Label When Your Inside The Jar

    In this episode, we discuss how we can be fool by our environment where we think that everything is okay and how to over this.

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.

    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.

    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.

    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how it’s hard to see the label when you’re inside the jar. Now, this quote is about how you need to expose yourself to different experiences and ideas so you don’t get stuck in your way of thinking.

    And it’s easy to get stuck in your way of thinking when your environment is agreeing with you. I feel that I’m blessed as a person because I have many different experiences. I grew up in a small town in Oregon with about 5,000 people. Sometimes I would travel to my friend’s house on a bike on these windy back roads with cars going 45 mph. It also wasn’t very diverse.

    I went into the Marines and I lived in Hawaii, I went to boot camp with a lot of different folks from across the United States, I went to Iraq.

    I lived in Washington, DC and I used to tutor a kid at Anacostia High School and he needed a lot of help. I was also a federal employee, a white house intern, and that’s where I started my own business.

    I’m also half white and half Mexican. I’m 6’3”. I’ve also been one of the tallest in my group of folks but I was also overweight as a kid, where I was picked on for being overweight. Now I’m fit and will take care of the body. I was in a nine-year marriage. Now I’m living as a digital nomad in Latin America. I also read over 250 books from a bunch of different backgrounds.

    I have a vast amount of experience to help me see the label outside of the jar. And this is important because if you don’t see the label outside of the jar, then you can be making decisions that are harmful to yourself and society.

    Right now as I’m writing this podcast episode, there is a lot of tension within the United States that revolving around race. I see people spreading messages about things that they probably don’t understand. It’s easy just to use your environment and background as a basis for what other people should do, but people don’t have the same background.

    I’m blessed that my parents made sure I went to a good school. I was able to go to school without worrying about my safety and get a pretty good education overall. When I was tutoring this high school student from Anacostia in Washington, DC, he was a senior in high school and didn’t understand general math principles. We had to do a lot of work over the year we worked together and hopefully I helped him out.

    There are a lot of things wrong with our school systems and people don’t start out on the same level. I know the world is never going to be fair, and we can do things to escape a low socio-economic status but we should show empathy and not dismiss people’s feelings. But we shouldn’t make people victims either and if we can help people grow, then we can make the world a better place.

    We could be irrational in our opinions of a situation or a person because we don’t see the label because we’re nice and safe in a our jar. But this is not going to make the world a better place. We need to get outside of our comfort zone and experience different things.

    I feel like a lot of people get captured by confirmation bias, where we seek information that we already agree with. So to prevent this, I’ve read a bunch of different books from different perspectives so I can see what makes sense in the world and move closer to the truth. The worst thing we can do is live a lie or lie to ourselves that things are good when they are not because eventually things will go wrong and we’re going to have a mess to clean up.

    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, it’s hard to see the label when you’re inside the jar. So make sure you’re exposing yourself to different ideas and experiences so you make irrational and bad decisions because you don’t know all the facts about the situation. If you’re ignoring the label, then eventually that tension is going to build up and your jar might be shattered. So the idea is just to know what is out in the world and make decisions that take in all the factors, not just the ones that make you feel comfortable. If we can do this as a society, then we can live a better life.

    So in your journal, ask yourself, do you know enough about the outside world? Do you only get your information from a few select sources? If you get in a confrontation with someone, do you know their background? Is there an uncomfortable conversation you need to have with someone? In life we have two choices, we can choose to be an important person, or we can choose to do important things. Focus on the second part and society will be better for it.

    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.

    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz

    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me

    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe

    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and to hit the subscribe button as well.

    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.

    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.

    *Music outro

  • Simple But Not Easy To Do

    In this episode, we discuss how success really just requires us not to complicate things and just follow the process that is simple but not easy to do. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how in life there are many things that are simple but not easy to do to become successful. This is especially true in business. If you’re trying to sell something, the best way to do it is just to ask a bunch of different people if they want to buy what you’re offering.
    I used to be a telemarketer back in high school selling home security systems. I only last like two months but it provided a really good experience later on in life, which is just a smile and dial. The more phone numbers you can dial and the more energy that you can bring, the more likely you will sell a home security system.
    I didn’t do very well at selling and it was a grind to be at that job, but it was a simple job. You just dialed phone numbers and read the script. If someone said yes, you would then pass the phone to someone to close on the deal. You just have to have the endurance to win in that type of job.
    The same thing applies to working out and staying on a diet. For the most part, staying healthy just requires you to work out and watch what you eat. This is simple but it is not easy because there are so many distractions. It’s easy to hit the snooze button in the morning instead of working out. It’s easy to skip that after-work workout to go to happy hour with your friends or watch television. It’s easy to indulge in that extra slice of pizza and beer at home or at a party.
    Life is not really that complex in terms of being successful, but that doesn’t mean it’s not easy. I know what I have to do at times, which are simple tasks but there is hesitation in doing the activity because I’m comfortable or doing that simple thing will make me uncomfortable.
    This is why you need to have your goals written down and have clear visions of what you want in the future. I know I have to work out because I have bulging disks in my lower back and I know I need to have kept my strength up to prevent worse problems down the road. I want to watch what I eat because I want to keep my waistline down and still be active in the future. I work on my business because I want to have control over my life.
    There are simple things I have to do on a daily basis but I need to be reminded of my way on a daily basis. In my journal, I write down my ten goals and what is necessary to accomplish those goals. This helps me stay motivated to work on my simple tasks. And if you do these simple tasks for long enough, you’ll get the life that you desire but just make sure it’s a life you truly want. Otherwise, you’ll work towards something that won’t give you much joy and that’s not a future I want.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, to be successful in life, it just requires you to do tasks that are simple but not easy to do because they are uncomfortable to do. So instead of saying this workout is going to cause me pain, say this workout is going to make me stronger. If you need to make phone calls, say that every tenth phone call I make, I’m going to make $100. Focus on the reward instead of the pain. Life doesn’t require you to come up with a crazy workout routine to stay fit, you just need your body and mind. Same thing with business. Don’t over complicate things and just have the stamina to keep going and this should eventually lead you to the success you desire.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is a goal that you want to accomplish? Are you over complicating things to reach your goal? What is the smallest thing you can do to get started? How can you reward or remind yourself to do those simple but not easy tasks? Look at your situation and see what is necessary and then start doing it. Remember that the distance between your dreams and reality is called action. So start taking some to you can get that life you desire.
    Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my audiobook “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and you can download it right there.
    I have a quiz on my website that grades your inner circle, so if you want to find out if your inner circle is an A, B, C, D, or F, you can take that quiz at growwithjoe.me/quiz
    I’m also trying to do a feedback Friday episode, so if you have a question that you would like to have my answer on the air, just e-mail me at friday@growwithjoe.me
    I’m also on Instagram at Grow With Joe and Facebook just look up Grow With Joe
    If you’re on iTunes, don’t forget to give me a five-star rating if you liked this episode and hit the subscribe button as well.
    The greatest compliment you can give me is to share this episode with someone else.
    Thanks for joining me today and remember if you go with Joe, you can grow with Joe, cause Joe knows Dough.
    *Music outro

  • Explain Your Anger Don’t Express It

    In this episode, we discuss how explaining your anger is more helpful than showing your anger and what are the techniques to do so. 

    Full Transcript

    Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
    I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
    At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
    In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how we should explain our anger, not express it. I think this is a very valuable practice because if you can express your anger, then it won’t build up and there will be less collateral damage. I used to keep a lot of things in but now I ask myself, is it worth it to be upset at this thing. If it’s a one-time thing, then I ask myself, is it worth saying something because is this person really going to learn. If they are not going to change, then I just change my environment without that thing or person in my life.
    I’ve been having problems with the past couple of Airbnb with excessive noise and it interrupts my recordings of podcasts and YouTube Videos. During the day, there is a lot of construction happening here in Medellin and I can’t really control the noise from construction, so my plan was to move to another place, but then it took my three different Airbnbs to finally find one that was quiet and had good internet. There were many days where I was angry at the situation and there was nothing I could do about the construction. At my second Airbnb, the upstairs neighbors were really loud. Instead of yelled at them, I just told them I was trying to sleep and they put down the music. This was a Thursday night at 10 pm. It wasn’t a good situation at that Airbnb, and it was just best to find a different place.
    I was married before and I wish I knew how to better express my feelings. It would have saved us a lot of time and money. I was angry at this situation, and I just kept it in until one day I expressed my frustration with the situation. And when you express your anger and frustration, then things are not going to go well. It’s much better to explain the anger. And most of the time you need a cool-off period in order to explain your anger instead of expressing it.
    When it comes to thinking there are two types. Fast thinking is responsible by your amygdala and slow thinking which is responsible by your prefrontal cortex. When you express your anger, it’s done by the amygdala which is responsible for your fight or flight responses. These are quick reactions and sometimes the amygdala gets the best of us when we hold on to something that is bothering us for too long and we’re not able to hold on to it for much longer. If this happens, then things are going to get messy because it can cause the other person to express their anger or emotions real quick.
    Then it’s going to be a lot harder to fixed things when it gets to this point. It’s better to sit down and start explaining your anger. And I would use your statements like you should have done this, or you’re making me miserable. It’s better to use I statements like I feel upset when this particular thing happens. If you explain to people that you’re upset when these things happens, you’re explaining to them what you want your standard to be like. People are not mind readers and if you don’t tell them what you want, they are going to do whatever is natural to them. I know for myself, I like to take off my shoes sitting down, and taking off my shoes near the door is something that is not comfortable for me. So then my shoes tend to stay located where I take them off. Now if someone is upset at this, then they have to let me know by explaining why they need to have shoes taken off near the door.
    Now the other person needs to know that it will take time to develop a new habit, so they are probably going to need to remind me a couple of times. If it’s reasonable I’ll do it. But if the person were to yell at me, then it’s going to cause a problem. If we can do this, then this would solve a lot of problems. There were things that made me angry at my last couple of jobs but I saw that I couldn’t change the situations, and it was better for me to move on with my life. I ended up explaining my frustration in a letter so I could get my emotions out and I feel a lot more calm. I saw what was bugging me and then I focused on what I could control. Now I’m a lot better.
    This is going to take practice so don’t be upset when you explain your anger and things still get worse. Let the other person have their cool off period as well and do the exercise again. If you need to go to therapy then go to therapy, but don’t keep your demons in because when you do that, they go into your soul and start lifting weights to get stronger. And eventually, you will express them and it won’t good.
    That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, explain your anger, don’t express it. Even if you don’t get your way after you explain your anger, it still allows you to let go of that thing that was holding you back. Now you can focus on what you need to move on with your life. So use your I statements like I feel upset when there are dirty dishes left in the sink because I end up cleaning them and it just adds more work to my day. I would like it if they were immediately put into the dishwasher instead of left in the sink. Something like this gives the other person a clear why and a clear call to action on what needs to be done to resolve the issue. Now it’s up to the other person to follow through and they will probably need reminders. Things might get worst at the moment, but the future is going to be a lot brighter once the dust settles.
    So in your journal, ask yourself, what is something that is frustrating you or causing you to be upset? What is causing this feeling? What is the best way to resolve it? How can you communicate it properly to the people that are causing you to feel this way? You also have to ask yourself if you’re being irrational as well. Somethings you can’t change and it’s best to move on. Either way, start explaining your feelings and don’t express them.
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