In this episode, we discuss how there are two different forms of quitting.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about the importance of knowing the difference between giving up and know when you had enough. Most of the time it is really difficult to know the difference between the two but it’s important that you eventually learn the difference between the two. My entire life, I thought I wanted to do something for the rest of my life, but something changed that I wasn’t aware of and I just switch to something else. I thought I was going to be in the Marine Corps for the rest of my life in year 3 but then things happened that caused me to get out. I thought I was going to be at my last financial planning firm for the rest of my life, but things changed and I switched to something else. I was also married and thought I was going to be married forever but things changed and now I’m single.
We all the best intentions with our decisions. Why would we make a decision if we didn’t think that it was something we were going to do for the rest of our lives. Right now I’m trying to grow this new business and it’s a lot of work and can be stressful at times, but I just keep telling myself that I’m close to having the life that I’m going to have. But when I was personal trainer, I thought I was going to be one for a long time since I liked working out people but then things weren’t going as well as I thought and I wasn’t willing to put in the work to make things work. So I had enough with being a personal trainer and I didn’t give up. I’m completely fine with not being a personal trainer. I didn’t give up. If though things didn’t work at my last firm, I didn’t give up on the dream of being a financial planner. In financial planning, about 90% of financial planners don’t make it after the first year. A lot of people give up.
When you give up though, you’re giving up on the person you’re were meant to be. I love doing financial planning because I get to help people become better versions of themselves financially. And if I don’t do this, then who will? I know I’ve helped out a lot of people because of my knowledge and giving up is something that I’m not going to do. I work a lot know, pretty much every day but I love what I do. It doesn’t really feel like work. I do take breaks every once in a while. Like yesterday, I decided I wasn’t going to work in the morning and the afternoon so I could explore Mexico City and see some famous landmarks. I took some good photos and made a video for my Instagram account. Pretty impressive architecture in the city if you have a chance to explore. I needed this break because if I didn’t, then I would burn out and be more likely to give up.
There is this quote that I heard on a podcast that 97% of the people in the world work for the 3% of people that didn’t give up. I listen to a lot of podcasts and read a lot of books, and this is a concept that comes up a lot. When things got tough, successful people just kept going and didn’t quit. But you don’t know if it will take one more try or a thousand more tries to get you to the place you want to be at. Brian Cranston, who was the lead in breaking bad, didn’t get his big break until he was in his forties. He spent a lot of time in the thirties just struggling. Going from audition to audition with little luck. He didn’t give up though.
Somethings you just need to give up on because they are a bad idea or you will never have the skills. You can be a basketball player at 5’5” but you better make sure you’re skilled at top-notch. If you don’t have the passion to practice and workout to get better though, it will be best to say that you had enough. If you like basketball, there are other ways you can be part of the game without having to be on the court like being a coach or an executive. I thought I wanted to get in sports medicine so I could be part of a sports team but I wasn’t that passionate about it after taking my first chemistry class. I was more interested in economics.
I have a big reason why I want to become a financial planner that uses development coaching to help people and it’s because I came from a humble background and I made it because I received certain opportunities to succeed and I want to make sure other people have the same opportunity. So this is a reason why I won’t give up on being a financial planning and I know I will never have enough of this career. Can you say the same about yourself?
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, there is a difference between giving up and knowing when you had enough. This takes wisdom and knowing who you are as a person to know the difference. I’ve gained a lot of experience with all the things I’ve done and learned and this helped me understand when I needed to keep going and when I had enough. Even if you know you had enough, it can still be hard to stop because there will be uncertainty about what the next move should be. But you just have to have the faith that you’re doing the right thing. There will also be uncertainty with you’re working on the thing you’re supposed to be doing for the rest of your life but you just have to remember your values and why you’re doing what you’re doing. This will help you get closer to the person you are meant to be and you can just start living a more fulfilling life.
So in your journal, ask yourself, do I need to continue on with this career or relationship? Am I having enough or should I keep going? Am I giving up because I don’t want to do something uncomfortable? Take some time to reflect on your life and see if you’re moving in the right direction and do you need to do something else. Don’t live a lie and just be true to yourself and you should be fine in this world.
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