In this episode, we discuss how we need to learn how to ask enough people what we want out of life and how it’s essential to know what you want our of life, so you know what to ask for.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about how we don’t get what we don’t ask for. You have to understand this in life, no one is a mind reader. People are not going to do what you want them to do for the most part if you don’t tell them what you want.
This applies to relationships, your career, and your own personal well being. As a person that tends to be more agreeable, I tend not to tell people what I want. This is something that I had to get over because it just makes me miserable.
You’re not living the life you want life. And if you ask enough people what you want, then you will eventually get what you want. A good technique for this is known as the tornado technique. When you’re at a networking event or just introducing yourself to someone new, don’t just tell them your name and where you work, tell them what you actually do and what you’re looking for.
For example, My name is Joe Bautista and I run a financial planning firm that looks to help Latino Doctors and Lawyers with managing their student loans. This is much better than to just saying my name is Joe and I’m a financial advisor. The second version is very vague and is open to a lot of interpretation. Are people too rich for my services? Can people afford my services? Do I work with business owners?
I can technically work with anyone but you have to know that the riches are in niches but that’s another topic for another day or most likely in a previous episode. But when you’re intentional and express what you want, you get what you want. And sometimes you just have to go out and grab it. I remember one of my friends said that in college that this professor was walking around the class with a gift and kept asking the class who wants this thing and kept repeating it until one student finally got up and just grabbed it.
Along with your words, you also have to express what you want with your actions. If you want a better life that is filled with more world experiences but you just spend your time on the couch playing video games all day, then those are not the actions that are going to get you what you want in life.
When it comes to your career, and you want to make more money, then you have to take on more responsibilities. So then you have to ask how you can get a promotion and what is it going to take, and that if you do these things over the next 12 months that it will setup you up for success. And if after the 12 months come, and you did everything you want, then maybe it’s best just to move on to something else because you’re not valued as an employee.
If you ask for what you want and you don’t get it, then just ask someone else or just change the terms of what you want. Make it a negotiation. I don’t get what I want all the time, but I just try to figure out what I need to do to get what I want in life. To come to Latin America it took my 12 months to make it happen but since I said what I wanted in life, then I created a plan to make things happen and now I’m here. Your intentions and wish are worthless, just remember that. They hold no value and hardly ever come true.
So if you want to have a life worth living, figure out what you want, then said what you want, and then find who can help you get what you want. Once you get the thing you want then it will feel so amazing.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, you don’t get what you don’t ask for and another caveat to that is that you get what you deserve, not what you want because the world is not yet crazy enough to give a bunch of under deserving people what they want as Charlie Munger said.
So have the courage to ask what you really want in life and to take the right action to deserve what you want in life. It sucks to live a majority of your life not getting what you actually want in life because then you’re going to have regrets about life and then it’s going to affect other parts of your life. Life is not going to be perfect but it can be more perfect when you tend to get more of what you want in life.
So in your journal, ask yourself, what do you want out of your life? What would a perfect day look like? Where would you live? What kind of problems would you have to deal with? How do you want your social life to be? You can’t know what you want in life if you can’t actually explain it. Once you have a crystal clear view of your future, then it makes planning and asking what you want in life so much easier. So take this time to reflect and start changing your life for the better.
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