In this episode, we discuss how we need to work with the world in order to instill the changes we want to see in the world.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how the world is how it is and you’re just an actor in it. The world is a very complex place where you have many people interacting with each other and each person has their own beliefs, values, and principles. To have everyone on the same page would be near impossible so to get around this, you just have to know how to be an actor in it where you get the role that you desire.
I used to live in Washington, DC and you would see a lot of folks trying to change the world. You see people who want to go work in nonprofits and in congress or the federal government so they could make the world a better place. Then after a couple of years, they realize that they make the huge changes that they wanted to make it really hard.
It’s really hard to impose your ideas on other people because people already have their habits and believes in place. It usually requires a lot of time and energy in building relationships or have the other person go something really emotional to change their ways. Think about Ebenezer Scrooge in Christmas Carol. He had to have a really bad dream that showed his misdeeds in order to change the way he interacted with people.
So I think it’s really important to understand how to be a social chameleon. Where you can build rapport with the people you’re interacting with. If you try to impose your will onto someone else, then they are going to under the same will still.
When you’re being a social chameleon, it’s not about changing who you are, it’s about changing the way you deliver your message. I’m big into personality quizzes like DISC and Meyers Brigg because they can show you how people like to receive information.
For DISC, there are four types of personalities. Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive, and Conscientious folks. If someone is dominant, they want to receive information quickly without a lot of fluff. So when I do my coaching, I have to know that they want to receive information this way.
For inspiring people, they are very emotional based but suck on follow through. So they require a lot of energy and follow up to get stuff done plus give them emotional reasons why they need to follow through on my advice.
For supportive people, you need to use a velvet hammer approach, be firm but soft, and don’t push them farther than they need are ready to go.
For conscientious folks, they want the information to make an informed decision. So if you can provide them with all the information to help make a good decision and give them a deadline, then that can help them out.
So as you can see, you need to be an actor in this world and adjust your message to the people you’re interacting with. If you just try to force your way into a situation, the world is going to beat you down and you’re not going to accomplish your ultimate goals in life.
You’re one person out of 7 billion-plus people on this planet. Making changes on the macro level can be really hard but making changes on a micro level can be a lot easier and be more impactful. You can’t save the whole world, but you can save a slice of it.
To find out the role you want to place and then study that role so you can be a success in that role. Actors have to study their lines, take classes on how to be an effective actor so that can play their part with conviction. Do this and you can have a pretty good life.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, the world is what it is, and we’re just actors in it. So study the part that you want to have and keep taking auditions until you reach your goal. It took comedian and actor Kevin Hart 16 years of hearing the word no before he made it. He just adjusted skills and message as a performer and kept it up until he reached the goal. If he were to say that the world needs to change for him, then we would never know about him and a lot of other folks who did the same. So know the role you want to play and start training for that role until you get it.
So in your journal, ask yourself, what is the role that you want to play in life? Why is that role important to you? What do you think that role will do for you and society? What skills do you need to add to give you that new life? Do you need to change your message to be more effective? Figure this out and you’ll be set for life.
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