In this episode, we discuss how to overcome your mistakes through extreme ownership and realizing that you can start over.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. And I would add to this quote by Bruce Lee that the earlier the better. I have found that if I make a mistake, it’s best just to take ownership as earlier as possible and say how you’re going to fix it.
Yes, people do some really unforgivable things but they can have the courage to admit them and that would make the situation better, maybe not 100 percent. But if that person then took the punishment and tried to make the world a better place, it would make the situation better. Plus I feel that you have to look at people’s backgrounds.
I was listening to a podcast about child slavery, and a lot of the folks that get into child slavery were child slaves themselves. They have this Stockholm syndrome and after being abused for so long, they don’t really know what else to do. So ends up being this cycle that continues. It is so sad to hear, but I think if they admitted their mistakes and took steps to help the situation, they could be forgiven. But there is also a lot of trauma that needs to be solved and I’m not sure they would have the resources to heal. It would take tremendous courage for this person to admit this because it’s one of the worst crimes that people commit and a lot of them that get caught end up committing suicide because they know things are going to be really tough for them.
The world is a messed up place and when we shame people, they will just act better, but if we can inspire people, then they will change for the better. So hopefully you don’t come across anyone that does something truly horrible to you, but if they did and admitted their mistake and actually change their ways and start doing good in the world, then I would forgive them. They just have to have the courage to do better.
For myself, I’ve made mistakes in the past, and I found that the easiest way was not to make an excuse and say I messed up and say how I’m going to fix it. Most people have forgiven me. And if the person didn’t forgive me, then I just have to know that I did my best, and I should just give them person their distance and have them see that I’m doing good in this world.
I know I’m not perfect and I’m going to make a mistake, but if I can be brave enough to admit them and not sweep them under the rug, then I can make the situation a lot better. Even if it meant losing my job, I would have to admit the mistake. I know I can recover because I work on myself every day to build up my human capital, social capital, and financial capital. So I don’t have this scarcity mindset.
And what usually happens when I make a mistake, is that I’m not ready for that moment yet. Then if I fail, then I try to see what I did wrong and then figure out what skills do I need to have in order to be the next time around. What usually happens, is things start to get out of hand, and then they become too unmanageable, and then I can’t control the situation anymore, and a mistake is made.
This is why I write in my journal so I can reflect on moments like this. So I can place my thoughts on the screen and get them out of my head for an analysis. Now that I’ve been doing this for eight years, I know how to handle a lot of situations better now, but it starts with having the courage to admit my faults and learning how to get better.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, mistakes are always forgivable if one has the courage to admit them. And it’s better to admit to them as fast as possible. Then once you admit the mistake, then learn how to do better the next time around. If you’re not learning from your mistakes, then you’re not having the courage to be a better person, and life is just to get harder and harder because all your relationships are not going to be as strong as they could be. I remember my old roommate was upset at me for leaving a mess in the kitchen, and I just admitted my faults and said that I was going to do better. That resolved the situation real quick and now our relationship is better and I’m super glad I did it. So if you want to have stronger relationships in your life, admit your mistakes and then learn how to do better the next time around.
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