In this episode, we discuss the benefit of looking at past events as learning opportunities to become better.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal to grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances. At the same time, you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day.” In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we will talk about how we shouldn’t be sad when things end. We should find joy in them. If we watch an excellent television show or movie, we don’t really want it to end. We want the feeling of fascination to continue. It’s an excellent feeling. But if we’re constantly at this moment, then we are really not going to learn much.
When we’re feeling good, we don’t spend any time reflecting on the big picture. We are just focusing on what’s happening in front of us. For me, the Hunger Games book series was fantastic, and the same thing with Girl with the Dragon Tattoo book series, I didn’t want them to end. But now they are over, I can reflect on what happened in the book. And those memories can bring a smile to my face.
And this is what life is about, making memories that you can draw on and say that you’re glad that it happened. I was in a nine-year marriage that ended in divorce, and I was sad at first, but I still have a lot of good memories that I can smile about. I grew up a lot here, but we got married young and eventually wanted different things out of life.
I wouldn’t take that marriage back because I wouldn’t be the person I am today, and I feel like I couldn’t have done better if I had a different path. So I’m not going to cry that it’s over, I’m going to smile about what happened.
Nothing lasts forever, and when we pass away, we can’t take things with us. So be happy that the events, good or bad, happened in your life. If we embrace them and learn from them, then we can live a very fulfilling life.
I love my parents, but I don’t want to live with them forever. I have to do my own thing, but I’m grateful for their support and love. For my parents, I want to show them that I care, and I want to show them that they raised a great son. I know my mom was scared about leaving home to join the Marines, but she is smiling now.
I feel like one of the worst ways to live life is trying to keep everything the same. We have to embrace change if we fully want to enjoy life because the change will happen regardless. When one event ends, be grateful for what happened and take some life lessons from it. Then embrace whatever is going to happen next and try to make the best of it. And if the next thing is not that great, then move on to the next event but still smiled that it happened.
And that’s it for today’s episode. To summarize it, don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. Life is one big ride, there will be ups and downs, but every twist and turn of life is something that we should be grateful for. Those events help us become the people we are today, and they also help grow as people. I don’t think anyone should live a stress-free life because it will just make us weak. The strongest trees in the forest are the ones that have gone through some fierce seasons. They will dig deeper roots and grow new branches to make it more resilient. So do the same with your life, and life will be a lot better than trying to keep things from wrapping up or avoiding conflict.
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