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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we are going to discuss how okay is not okay, and how we shouldn’t accept crappy things in our life even if it’s a little sweet. I got today’s podcast idea from Charlie Munger who wrote the book, “Poor Charlie’s Almanac,” which is a book about how to make good decisions.
And he came up with the concept that you don’t want to mix turds with raisins. He is a businessman and he saw that people try to make a bad idea into a good idea by adding some new features, but it’s still a bad idea overall. It’s best just to scrap everything and start off with something new.
That new feature might help you last in the business, a little bit longer, but eventually, things are not going to work out anymore. The same thing with toxic relationships. Someone might do one sweet thing to make things better for the day, but it’s not going to make up for all the other crappy things you’ve been through and will go through the next day. It’s best to leave that relationship most likely because people rarely change.
I think we want to hold on to these crappy things because they give us certainty and people don’t really do well when things are unknown. And the little thing that is good, is to give people hope that things will get better on their own. And from my experience, things never get better on their own. They are not magically going to get better and things will turn themselves around. It’s not impossible, but it’s not very probable.
For me to change my situation, I had to change myself, my environment, or my situation to make things better. The one little positive thing can be very deceiving but try not to be fooled by it. I think it’s really hard in relationships. It’s easy to fool yourself that things will get better, but they won’t. If you have a feeling that things won’t work out, because it won’t be a good fit, then feel free to leave because okay is not okay.
I’ve been dating and I really haven’t found anyone yet. I’ve found okay things, but I haven’t found that great relationship yet. If I was to settle, it would be like mixing turds with raisins, and then what is going to happen is that I’m going to lower my expectations, and then I’m going to feel resentment, and then this is going to affect my mood, which is then going to affect my relationship in a negative way. And this is not going to be good for anyone.
I’m glad I read Charlie Munger’s book because it allowed me not to lower my expectations and not be fooled by the sporadic moments of joy. I know where a situation can be fixed and when it can’t be fixed. So the best thing when things can’t be fixed is to move on. You can’t polish a turd, it’s just going to get messier and messier, and then you have crap all over your hands.
So look at your life and see what are the different areas where you’re trying to mix raisins with a turd. Now this answer is going to be very personal and just make sure it’s a decision that you’re not going to regret or is going to harm you in the future. But once you think about your life, figure out a way to fix the situation or to remove it from your life. Now things won’t be perfect, but just realize the difference between something getting a little bit dirty, which can be cleaned, and when you’re dealing with a turn with raisins in it.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, don’t mix raisins with turds. Don’t take a bad idea, and try to make it better. It’s best just to get rid of the thing and start off fresh with something else. This takes wisdom because sometimes you’re working with gold and it’s just going to take some time to polish it to make it shine. The key thing is that no matter how much shining you do on a turd, won’t fix anything. It still won’t shine. Life is about making decisions and the goal of life is to minimize your bad decisions. You don’t always have to make great decisions, and a consistent stream of good decisions can lead to a great life, but one bad decision can ruin your whole life. So look at your life and see what bad decisions you’re holding on to and then remove them. Do this and life will get a lot better.
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