In this episode, we discuss that you just have to handle what life throws your way because it will never make an appointment with you.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons on how to grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so you can have better careers, better relationships, and better personal finances.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about how life will happen, and when life does happen, it will never make an appointment with you and you just have to deal with it as it happens. I feel like a lot of things just happen in my car. I’ve had my window broken into, I ran over a couple of screws, and one time I was driving on the highway, a car ran over a piece of wood that caused that piece of wood to go into my lane and I drove over it, which then hit my radiator and that was an expensive fix at $4500 dollars. I was upset when those things happened and it caused me a lot of wasted time but that is just part of life, you just have to deal with it.
The radiator caused me much grief when it happened and I wanted to cry because there were some other things that were happening my life with my business and personal life, and I was like, ugh one more thing to deal with. Luckily for me, I was going to receive a bonus at work and it all went to that car. It would of been nice to spend that bonus on something else than my car but that is how life is sometimes. You win some and you lose some. Now I’m motivated to win back whatever I lose and then some.
Bad things are going to happen to us and they won’t be scheduled on our calendar. They are just going to show up whenever they feel like it and you just have to be okay with it. I say one of the worst things that can happen with bad things happen to you, is thinking you can fix it all on your own. When my car issue happened, I called my dad and I talk to my landlord about my upcoming rent and I got the relief I needed. If you’re in trouble, just ask for help and people can help you out. If a person can’t help you out, then ask another person.
When we get into a hole, the first thing we need to do is stop digging. You will only make the hole deeper by keeping everything in. People can’t help you out if they don’t know you need help and the road to poverty is self-sufficiency. We need to take some action on our part by paying back out debts and I would also recommend that you start building up your assets so that you can make unexpected life appointments a five-minute appointment instead of a year-long appointment.
I would say one of the surest ways to get disappointed in life is to expect everything to go as planned. There is a law called Hoeffstrader’s Law which states that things will tend to be more expensive and take longer than originally planned. Since I know this happens, I don’t get as upset as I could have in the past. I still get upset but it fades away a lot faster.
Plus when things go wrong, I just tell myself, okay what is the next positive step that I can take. Sometimes I do lay I my bed and I don’t want to do anything because I’m unmotivated but what I usually do to get me out of that funk is to listen to a podcast about business or personal development and I hear stories of people’s struggles, it reminds me that I’m not the only one with problems. So then I just get out of bed and I get back to work. And that’s all we can really do as a person, is get back to work. If you need to rest, rest, but don’t rest for too long.
Once I get back to doing the work, I usually quickly forget my problems because now all my attention is focused on the work ahead of me. The brain can’t really focus on two deep thinking tasks at the same time. So if you’re really focused on something besides the problem that you really can’t fix, then you start to forget about that problem. That how it works for me. So when I write, read a book, or do some other task for my business, I’m focusing on the things that will actually help me get rid of my problem.
For a lot of our problems, we shouldn’t really expect justice like my car window being busted by a stranger. I know the chances of the police actually finding the person are very low, and it would probably cost the police department more money trying to find the person than it cost me $250 to fix my window. It sucks that someone did that and he shouldn’t get away with it, but in life, you just have to accept some losses and move on. The longer I think about that loss that I will never recoup, the more time I will waste on something that I will never get back. It’s been three years since that happens I still haven’t heard anything back. I didn’t even call the police because I knew it would be for nothing. I’m just glad I didn’t leave anything in the car for the person to take. My deductible was $250 so I actually had to pay for window myself without insurance but that is the deal I made with the insurance company to pay a higher deductible for a lower monthly insurance rate. This is why you need to have assets to handle this type of incident or start working on it.
Life happens and the best thing is to move on to something that will make you better in the future, otherwise, you’re just staying the in past and nothing happens or grows there.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, life happens and it doesn’t make an appointment with you. It will just show up anytime it feels like it and you just have to deal with it. The best thing to do is just to resolve the issue as fast as possible so you can get back on track with your life. You can be upset, but don’t be upset for too long. Time is short and every extra second thinking about an issue that you can’t fix like a broken car window is a second that you will never get back. We should value time because it is the scarcest resource we have.
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