In this episode, we discuss how you should ask yourself how things are going for yourself so you don’t go down the wrong path.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about a question that we should be asking on a routine basis and that is, “How Is That Working Out For You?” This question can be applied to yourself or to someone else. I learned this great question from the Jordan Harbinger Show. Usually, people have some type of excuse for not doing something or with just dealing with a less than ideal situation.
When you ask this question, don’t say another word. Let the thinking process to begin. Let the ideas come together to see how everything is really working out. You or the other person can see if something needs to change. Some times you just need to ask questions like this to get people or yourself out of a funk.
When I first heard this question, I was like, whoa, how are things working out for me and I continued to come back to this question to help me out. It caused me to start my own financial planning firm, and to leave Washington DC to become a digital nomad. I didn’t like what I was doing at my last firm and the situation I was in so I decided that I was going to make a change.
The idea is that you don’t want to stay in a bad situation longer than you have to be. Sometimes you need to stick something out so that you get a better future, but sometimes the thing that you thought was giving you a brighter future turned out to dud. I was doing very well at my last business because my business expenses were high in DC and my revenue was not quite there. So I decided I was going to do my own thing and reduce my expenses significantly. Best decision I made.
This question can also be helpful if someone is always complaining about something. If they are complaining about their job, then you can ask, “How is continuing to there working out for you?” The idea is that they come to the conclusion that they need to make a change if they won’t change in their life. If you hate your job and the people you work with, then why are you going to continue to work there. Your mental health is something that you should protect at all times and you should allow trash to start accumulating there. Complaining is never really a good idea and doesn’t change things, it’s an action that changes things. And questions are a great way to start this process. I know for myself, I just ask myself a question like how do I want my future to look? What type of life do I want to have? What do I want to deal with?
Then once you start answering those questions, then you can find out how things are working out for you. Is it good or is it bad? Hopefully, it is good, but if it’s bad, then what I would do I trying to figure out some type of plan where I can get a better life. That better life might not happen right away and it might take a while. For me to become a digital nomad, it took ten months to get everything in place but I followed a plan to get here. I told myself that if I quit my job, then move in with my parents, then I can save up enough money to get to Latin America and be fine. Life is good now and I feel really accomplished for making my dream a reality.
Life is so much better now than how I was at my old firm and it is because I took the time to realize things weren’t working out for me. Now I’m never going to put myself in a situation like that again because it’s just bad for every aspect of my life. When you’re out of a situation that isn’t working out for you, then you’re going to feel like all this weight has just fallen off your shoulder. And that weight is just the burden of dealing with something. You only have one life to live, so why deal with things that are not working out for you. Whatever situation you’re in, there is a way to make it better. You don’t have to leave something completely, you can just change the rules and the expectations. This might require you to update your communication skills but that’s why you ask the question. So you can start to figure out how to start makings things for you instead of against you.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, we need to ask our self and others this question, “How is that working out for you?” Then start to explore the question and see if things need to stay the same or change. This change could be removing yourself from the situation, or updating the expectations. But if you never explore the question then you might just stick with something that is not working out for you and you’re really just wasting your time. And you don’t want to be 50 years working on something or dealing with something that took so much time away from you. We only have one life to live, might as well fill it up as much as we can with things that are working out for ourselves.
So in your journal, ask yourself, “How are things working for me in the blank?” That blank can be your career, with a certain relationship, a hobby you’re doing, with your life. Just take some time and start to write out some paragraphs where you start exploring how you want your life to be. You don’t have to take action on this now, but hopefully, it can serve as the building blocks to help you move in the right direction of having things work out for you.
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