In this episode, we discuss how you shouldn’t focus on leaving a legacy, but focus on just being a great person in your own way.
Full Transcript
Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about how no one will remember you forever. Of course, their people from history that we remember but the amount of people is very few. We know people like George Washington and Abraham Lincoln in the United States but there might come a time where we stop talking about these people. We know who Hitler is but we don’t think very fond of him for the most part. I saw a clip on the Jimmy Kimmel Show that the 17-year-old singer Billie Eilish didn’t know who Van Halen was. If you don’t know who Van Halen is, he is a rock and roll singer from the 80s. There is a lot of stuff to know about today and we can’t know everything. There are books out there that I want to read but I just haven’t gotten to yet. Give it enough time and people will probably forget about Billie Eilish. Time moves on and this is what Marcus Aurelius from 2000 years ago said. Why spend all this time trying to get people to know you when eventually they will fade away and you will fade away at the same time. You should just focus on being a good persona and do what you’re supposed to do as a human being.
Don’t try to go after everyone trying to like you, just focus on doing great work and being a good person. So don’t be too worried about making a fool of yourself today because in 100 years, no one from today will likely be around. We should also strive to do things we want to do out of life and not worry what other people think because this is our lives and we’re not going to get another one. My mom didn’t want me to go live alone in Latin America and I keep hearing people tell me that it is dangerous in Mexico but I don’t care, I just going to go out and live my life. It’s been a really good experience so far. I’m learning Spanish and I’m seeing how people from Mexico live. For the most part, they are just like people in the United States, they go to work, they want to have fun and take care of their family, and just want to be happy. No real difference than in the United States.
My goal is that I want to learn Spanish so I can start doing all my Grow With Joe stuff in Spanish. There is a huge gap in information when it comes to self-development and financial planning and I see there is a huge opportunity to make people better. I’m just going to try to live my life to the best of my ability without worry what other people have to say about me since it’s not going to last forever. I do have a moment of doubt when it comes to doing stuff and sometimes I don’t do stuff because of other people, so I’m not perfect but I do try to live my life as true as possible. If you think about it, if you start living your life based on what other people think, you’re going to live a very miserable life. You won’t do certain things because you’re worried about what this person will think and then you’re just restricting your soul. Then you can end up going to the grave with unfinished business and this is how ghosts are created. Just kidding but not really.
If you base your life and trying to make other people happy by changing yourself to fit their needs, then this is also a lie. There might come a day where they are not around anymore, and now what you’re going to do. You’ve spent your entire life trying to be someone else for someone else and it can cause a huge identity crisis for yourself. I don’t want to be 60 years old and wondering what I should do with my life because I was too focused on the needs of someone else and didn’t really take the time to help myself out.
Sure there are some responsibilities that we have and should take care of but they shouldn’t change who we are at the core. I remember telling my mom that I was going to join the Marines and she started crying because that meant I was going to war but I knew I had to go so I could make a better life for myself. I wouldn’t change a thing.
You can also focus on creating the best movie, song, or book out there, but guess what, a lot of people are going to forget it probably in two generations. People are just focused on what is new and don’t spend a lot of time on things that happened in the past. Sure there are going to be exceptions by they are the minority. We should just focus on making great work and then enjoying the hard work we put into the thing. Then when that moment has passed, just focus on the next thing that we need to focus on and being a good person at the same time.
So if you’re changing yourself to fit someone else’s expectation, then you’re living a life that is going to end up bad because things will change and you’ll be left wondering what happens and how much time you wasted in the past. Don’t let this happen to you and just focus on living your best life by not caring about other people’s expectations of you.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, no one will remember you forever so why spend time worrying about other people’s expectations. Just focus on your own expectations and this will lead you to the life you want to live. Time is unforgiving to a lot of folks and it takes things like wars for people to remember you centuries later and most likely it won’t be for good reasons. So just focus on being a good person and doing what you were meant to do in this life.
So in your journal, ask yourself, am I allowing other people’s expectations of me dictate who I should be as a person. Why are that person’s expectations so valuable to you? Do you think something bad will happen if you don’t live up to those expectations? What is that bad thing? Spend some time to find out why you feel that you should not live your life on your own terms. This might be the breakthrough you need to take your life to the next level.
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