In this episode, we discuss how the easiest person to let down is ourselves.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about the Marie Forleo quote, “To be responsible, keep your promises to others. To be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” We are going to focus on the last part but it’s important to keep your promises if they are good ones to keep. Some promises, you just didn’t know any better and it’s best to say you’re sorry, makeup as much as you can and move on.
But the easiest person that you can break a promise is to yourself. I take a lot of pride in doing what I said I’m going to do. One area where I’ve been slacking on is my pull-ups. I used to post on Instagram all the time of me doing my pull-ups but then I hurt a shoulder blade muscle and now it’s been almost three months since I did pull-ups. I’m still not better yet but I’ve been doing my rehab exercises so that I can start doing them hopefully soon. So when you promise yourself something, things happen, and you just got to work yourself up there.
Another promise that I’ve told myself that I’ve kept up since May is that I’ve written a blog post pretty much every day. If I missed a day, then I made up for it by doing two a day. Now I’m at 210 episodes. By keeping this promise to myself, I’ve gotten better as a writer and producing my podcasts. Doing the podcast has also given more confidence in doing my Facebook Lives. Since I’m just basically summarizing my podcast episodes but it allows people to do a Q&A as well.
I’ve been really good at keeping promises to myself for things I really liked. I told myself that I was going in the Marines, I told myself that I wasn’t going to stay in jobs I hated for longer than I had to, I told myself that going to the gym is a priority, and I told myself that I was going to move to Latin America to live as a digital nomad. Life is good when you keep promises to yourself.
Due to this, you have to know how to say no to the thing that will break your promise, have a plan for how you can keep your promise, and not let other people tell you that you can’t do what you want to do. My little sister didn’t believe that I was going to go to Latin America but I do what I say I’m going to do. I might not be able to do it right away but I will figure out a way to make things happen.
When you start breaking promises to yourself, then you’re just lowering the standard for yourself. And this is not a good thing. We should have high standards for ourselves and keep those high standards. If you miss your high standard, it should only because something out of your control happened like getting sick or having to take care of an emergency. Then the goal is to get back on your path as fast a possible. If you keep your promises to yourself, then you’re going to become successful in life.
We should also keep our promises to others because that is what builds trust. I was having a hard time falling asleep and my Amish hour wasn’t working. I needed to wake up early so that I can get all the stuff I needed to accomplish done in a timely matter. So I decided that I was going to quit drinking coffee. It was hard at first because I was really tired the first week and I would get headaches during the day, but now I’m over it after two weeks of not drinking it. Now I fall asleep so much faster and if keeping a promise to myself means not drinking coffee anymore, then I’m not going to drink coffee anymore. Peppermint tea has done just as well as coffee and my work hasn’t really suffered.
So to keep your high standards, you might have to give up something that you love. I loved drinking coffee but I know that to be successful, I have to keep my promise to myself. There is a lot more good I can get out of this world by getting a full night’s sleep than enjoying a cup of coffee in the morning. This is just me, so you don’t have to give up your cup of coffee in the morning, you just need to know what you do need to give up in order for you to keep your promises yourself.
I have a lot of promises to myself that I need to keep but and it can be overwhelming at the time, and sometimes I do drop the ball, but when I review my goals, it reminds me what I need to do in my life and what I shouldn’t do.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, to be responsible, keep your promises to others. To be successful, keep your promises to yourself as Marie Forleo says. By keeping your promises to yourself, this will take your life to the next level. You’ll start to see that you’re progressing with your career, your physical self, your relationships, and your personal finances. If you’re not happy in any one of these areas, you probably need to have higher standards for yourself and you need to keep the promise to yourself that you’re going to stick to those higher standards. This can be hard and require discipline, but if you just keep getting a little bit better every day, then you’ll reach the standard you need in your life.
If you want to start seeing amazing things in your life, keep your promises to yourself and you’ll be on your way.
So in your journal, ask yourself, what is a promise that you need to keep to yourself? How can you rearrange your life so that keeping that promise becomes easier? Like for myself, I realized that I wasn’t sleeping very well and I stopped drinking coffee. Somethings are just a crutch and you really don’t need them, you just need to fix other things in your life so you don’t need that crutch. I strive for 9 hours of sleep a night and when I get this, I don’t really need coffee. You got this and if you need any help, just reach out to me at [email protected]
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