In this episode, we discuss how when times are good, be grateful and when times are bitter, say thank you and grow.
Full Transcript
Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about when life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. When life is bitter, say thank you and grow. There are many ways you can look at the world. You can have a fixed mindset that says you can’t do something when things go wrong and just accept things for the way they are. Or you can have a growth mindset that says you change your situation or at least say that you can handle this situation.
When life is sweet though, you should say thank you and celebrate the good times. When life is bitter, you should still say thank you for that learning opportunity and then grow from it. There have been plenty of things that happened in my past, where I didn’t handle it very well but ever since learning about the stoic philosophy and realizing there are things I can’t control and there are things I can control, I’ve gotten a lot better about handling life.
I didn’t like a lot of things about my last couple of jobs but now reflecting on those things, I felt I was able to grow from those moments and now I’m a much better person today. I don’t wish those events didn’t happen in my life because they made me the person I am today and I don’t think I would have grown as a person if they weren’t apart of my life.
So I say thank you to those bitter moments in my life but I’m moving on with my life by focusing my time on what is important to me. This is the best path you can take. When you forgive and say thank you, then you can move on with your life. You don’t need to keep that thing in your life moving forward, but just recognized how it changed you as a person and grow from that moment.
This also means if something bad happened to you, you should never try that thing again. I went through a divorce two years ago and I’m not going to tell myself that I’m never going to get married again. Now when I find another girl, I know what to ask and know before I tie the knot. I’m not going to jump right into it as I did with my last marriage. I’m growing from that experience.
I did have a lot of great memories from that marriage and I just say thank you for those times and I celebrated. These memories will tell me what I did right and how I can use those moments in future relationships. Then when I have good moments in the future, then I will say thank you and celebrate. Life is kind of this simple. You just do the work, say thank you for the good times and celebrate. During bitter times, you say thank you and then you grow from it.
You don’t want to be angry, because that just keeps you in a dark place and you can’t grow from that. You just got to learn to move on and this can be hard, but I feel that if you think about how you became a better person or what you learned that makes you avoid mistakes in the future, then this can cause you to take action in the right direction.
You should want to grow as a person because that is going to ensure that you’re keeping up with society.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, when life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. When life is bitter, say thank you and grow. If you follow this process in life, you should do alright. You don’t let the bad times hold you back as a person and most likely you’ll become stronger as a person. When you celebrate the sweet times, it allows you to enjoy the moment and stay present. And this can create stronger bonds with those that are in your life. When you take the time to say, hey we did this great thing or look how well life is going. You should take time and celebrate. You don’t want to live your entire life thinking about the next thing you have to do. That is just too exhausting. When times are bad though, you can look back on the sweet times and realize that you can get those moments back by growing out of the situation you’re in. Follow this process and it should do you a lot of good in your life.
So in your journal, ask yourself, what is a bitter moment that you had in your life and what did you learn from that bitter moment? How did you grow from that moment? If you’re still dealing with it, what can you do now to grow? Also in your journal, ask yourself, when was the last sweet moment in your life? How did you celebrate? Did you celebrate? A celebrate doesn’t have to be fancy, it can be a short moment that is shared with others. So write down in your journal how you can apply today’s lesson in your life and then implement the lessons. Hopefully, it will lead to more sweet moments and more conquering of your bitter moments.
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