In this episode, we discuss how you should probably think about communicating with your family more.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about how you spend 80 percent of your time your parents from the time you’re born to when you graduate high school and what you should do about it. If you think about this, then you should probably be spending more time with your parents or at least give them that phone call.
I know I’ve been bad at this for the past couple of years and it’s one of the reasons why I decided to move back with my parents. I told myself that I was going to move to Latin America for two to three years and I probably won’t be seeing my family during that time.
I’ve gone longer without seeing my parents when I was in the Marines but I thought it was important to go see them. Before that, I was seeing my parents about once a year when I was living in DC. Then I heard this stat and I thought it would be important to go see them so I went. I spent about six months with my parents before I left for Mexico but I’m glad I was there.
I was able to help my mom and dad with some projects, and I was able to go see my sister as well. I don’t think I was able to fully maximize my time but it’s more time than I spent for the last decade. I’ve been busy in Mexico City for the past couple of months so I haven’t been talking to my parents like I should. So since this prompt came up, it made decide to call my parents once a week. So let’s see how that goes.
So if you don’t see you’re parents that much, make sure that you don’t let enough time go by where it’s too late. One thing that I want to do when I make this Grow With Joe Business successful is that I want to pay for my mom, dad, and sisters with their families to go on a trip for Thanksgiving or Christmas once a year. I know what it is going to cost and so that gives me extra motivation to do that.
We all live in different parts of the world so I think it will be nice to bring the family together and make memories. And that is what this podcast episode is about. Don’t wait too long to make memories with your family or to check-in. I’m probably going to see my sisters even less because they are busy with their own lives. Once you realize that as an adult, you already spent 80% of your time with your family, then you might want to take some steps to decrease that time. You don’t want to give them flowers on their grave, let them know that they are appreciated. Those actions will mean more now than when they or you are gone.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, most folks will spend about 80% of their time with their parents from the time they are born to the time they graduate high school. If you want to decrease this number, just make sure you take time to check-in and make memories. Plan out dinners or brunches, trips, or other special occasions. Don’t wait until the holidays to meet up. This takes effort on your part and doesn’t expect other family members to do the work, just put in the work yourself. You should have higher standards for yourself than of others anyways. Don’t live life with regrets and if someone passes away, you’ll have no more time with that person so make sure you make the present count.
So in your journal, ask yourself, do you need to talk more with your family members? If you don’t know what to talk about, ask them stories about their childhood or right before they had you? Living with my parents for six months, my mom started telling me stories that I didn’t know about but I’m glad I know because they help me understand her mom and her actions. Just write down ten questions that you want to know, and then save those questions for the next ten interactions. You might be surprised by what you learn. I know I was and I’m glad it happened. So value this time with your family and have a plan for your interactions.
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