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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about how we shouldn’t let our inner voice be your worst friend. I’m big into positive self-talk and I rarely put myself down because I know it’s the voice in my head that is going to either help me succeed in life or hold me back.
I used to let my inner voice tell me a lot of things like I shouldn’t do this or that because I wasn’t good enough. It happens a lot with talking to girls because as a kid as I was overweight and it affected my confidence. Plus you have to realize that when you put yourself out there, not everyone is going to like you, but if you do it enough, then you’ll find the right person.
But if your inner voice is your worst friend, then you’ll never go out and put yourself out there. Then nothing is really going to change in your life.
I hate using words like I can’t or it’s impossible because those are the words that your bad friend would use. I think we should use words like I’m unable to do that yet or it’s going to take a long time to solve this. Always and never are meaningless words because they are constantly being broken by someone who is actually doing the thing.
When your inner voice is your worst friend, it will just hold you back in many ways since it’s the one friend that you will constantly be around. There is no escaping that voice in your head. If your inner voice was a friend from school or at work, would you want them to talk to you like your inner voice talks to you?
Nobody would want that but since it comes from us, we tend to believe what that voice says. It’s all about the ego trying to protect us by making us not stand out. There could be other issues too but the inner voice is trying to play it safe and will use down talk to make us not do what we really want to do.
This is why your inner voice needs to be your best friend. One that tells you it’s okay to fail and that you can try again the next day. Your best friend should also allow you to be curious so you can try new things and not be afraid when things don’t turn out perfectly. Your inner voice should motivate you to do more with your life.
Once you’re able to turn your inner voice into your best friend, then that is when seriously positive change happens. I still have moments of doubt in my mind but I’m a lot better. And I think it comes from all the positive change that I put myself through. I went from being overweight as a kid to being relatively fit. I could do better with my diet. I graduated from college, I was in the Marines, I learned how to swim, and I’m traveling the world.
I think once you start seeing success then that is when you can prove that inner voice is wrong about yourself and your development. It’s about having a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset. Most of the time I have a negative thought, I just try to tell myself that there is another opportunity elsewhere and that I just need to go find it. Or that if this person doesn’t like my stuff, I’m sure there are other people that do. I can’t get everyone to like me, but with billions of people on this planet, I just need to have the right ones. If I believe that I need to have this certain person like me, then I’m living with a fixed mindset that is going to hold me back.
One of the best things about living today is that you can pretty much change your situation. Right now I’m living in Latin America and my living situation is changing every couple of months because I’m trying to see the world. So I fail in one city, then I can just go to another and start over. If I fail on one podcast, then I can just make another. I can’t let my inner voice tell me that I have to be perfect on every single podcast episode or it isn’t worth it. That is a lot of pressure to live up to. I can just try my best, and if it’s a good episode, then okay. I need to focus on the next one. One great podcast episode is not going to give me an infinite amount of joy, it will go away. So I just need to enjoy it and then move on to the next thing.
I’m seeing progress with my life and it’s because I don’t allow negativity in my life and it really begins with that voice in my head.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, don’t let your inner voice be your worst friend. You have to remember that the cost of having low-value people in your life, is your life. If you allow your inner voice to hold you back and put you down, it’s going to cost you your life, which means that you’re going to not be as happy and have more regrets. Who wants that life? I surely don’t. So when my inner voice is acting up, I’m going to make sure that it quickly turns into a best friend again. I think this comes from following your goals and writing down three things I’m grateful for every day. I also know that for every one thing I hear is negative, I need to hear ten positive things, so I can cause a lot of damage to myself if I allow my inner voice to be my worst friend.
So in your journal, ask yourself, how is your relationship with your inner voice? Is it a good relationship? How can’t you take control of the relationship with positivity? This inner voice you have is always going to be around you and judge every move you make so I think it would be in your best interest to make your inner voice your best friend who will build you up instead of put you down.
Thanks for listening today! To get a free copy of my book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to get better every day” just go to my website growwithjoe.me/book and just pay for shipping and handling.
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