In this episode, we discuss the importance of letting go because once you do, you will be able to find out who you are meant to be.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
At the end of today’s podcast episode, I’m going to give you a prompt question to reflect on in your journal. The idea is to take one to five minutes to reflect on today’s lesson and write a minimum of one paragraph on how you can apply the lesson in your life. You can use an actual journal, a word document like on Google Drive, or your note-taking app like Evernote. The idea is that you’re actually thinking about how to process the information to help you improve your life.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how in the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself. I know for myself, there were things that I held on to about my past that wasn’t really helping out. And holding on to stuff from the past rarely works out for yourself.
It’s like a having boulder that you’re carrying around. You’re going to be slow and it’s going to take a lot of energy to do something, and you might not want to do that thing because you’ll be too tired carrying this boulder around.
I was overweight as a kid and this is something that used to get in my head. I would be extremely shy around girls and have confidence issues with talking to them. I would just be a wallflower.
I’m a lot skinnier now and after going through the Marines and working on myself, I have a lot more confidence now than I used and life is a whole lot better. I was able to Karaoke a bowling alley, which is something I would never do in the past, I can dance now in public, and I can ask for girl’s phone numbers now. My life is so much better now that I let go of the thing holding me back.
There is a lot more making a fool of myself with dance moves and the sort but I’ve discovered who I want to be in life and that brings me more joy. My days are based on what I want to do. There are times where something in the past affects my decisions for today but in my journal, I like to ask how I’m feeling. There this period of self-reflection, I like to ask myself how I’m feeling, and if something is bugging me, then I like to analyze and see how I can change my situation where I’m better off.
I say, when you’re more sure of who you are and don’t care what other people think, then you can let go of stuff. But if you care what your friends think, what your family thinks, then you’re going to hold on to more things from the past and this is just preventing us from doing what we ultimately want to do in life. I used to think that I needed to get an education so I could get a good-paying job, but then after living in that situation, I just realized that I was trading my time for money. Then I got a sales job for financial planning and had to reach out to people for business. I got a lot of nos but I got some yeses to give me the confidence that I’m good to do my own thing. Now I love my life because I let go of the stuff holding me back.
You can love your life if you let go of the stuff. There are a lot of things that were holding to and if we let it go, we might not know who we are for a moment, but after a while, you’ll discover who you were truly meant to be.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, in the process of letting go, you will lose a lot of things from the past, but you will find yourself. So look at your life and see if you’re holding on to something from the past that doesn’t really matter today. This could be someone giving you a bad deal, making a mistake, or something that someone told you that isn’t true anymore. As people, we’re really good at holding on to past events but most of the time, you’re going to have to learn to let go of those things so you can start living life how you want to live it. Don’t go into the grave with regrets and the easiest way to do that is by not letting go.
So in your journal, ask yourself, is there something that I’m holding onto from the past? This could be a value, a principle, a belief, and a grudge. What is causing you to hold on to this thing from the past? What is the worst thing that is going to happen if you let it go? What is the best thing that could happen if you let it go? If you have something serious in your life, go see a professional to help you out. If you need help, go seek out a professional. Just make sure that your working on resolving the matter by yourself and with the guidance of someone else. If I need help, I go out and seek it out. This helps me move on and it can help you to.
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