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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how today’s society is influenced by the last generation’s social norms. The world is constantly changing and what was normal two hundred years ago, may or may not be okay to do today.
Plus they didn’t have access to social media, access to the type of research we have today, and a bunch of other things. I feel that a lot of people born today, born in the same situation two hundred years ago would be racist or more biased to their own kind because that is just how it is.
Tens of thousands of years ago, we lived in tribes and we were worried about other people from different tribes. This is a natural tendency because our brain hasn’t really evolved to keep up with societal changes. If you look at our society, we like to root against other people. Dems vs Republicans, Blazers vs. the Lakers for in my case, iPhone against Android, and so many others.
So when you see another race 200 years ago, this tribal feeling can come over. Is it a rational feeling to have, no but when for tens of thousands of generations villages were raided by foreign tribes, your body still wants to put up these guards against people outside your tribe.
When I was in the Marines, we would argue about which state was the best, but when we were faced with another service member from another branch, we would tend to stick with the Marines. When it’s service members against a foreign enemy, we band together. And I bet if aliens were attacking earth, we would band together as a world against them.
So these tendencies back in the day started creating social norms that affect people today. The segregation of black and brown people from white neighborhoods. Did people value religion like they do in the south? I grew up in Oregon and religion was not a big thing. I’m not sure why but it wasn’t a big deal. So my thoughts are influenced by other things than religion. Is this a bad or a good thing? Well, it all depends on how you use it. Is it for good or are you using it as a shield to do bad?
To create the best society, I feel we need to ask more questions and network with more people outside of our tribe. For my financial planning business, I tend to focus on Latinos but I’ll take anyone if they are coachable and I also make sure to go to events where I can mix with other people. This way I can show other people than Latinos can be a resource and so I can learn from these other people.
No ethnic group has all the answers, and it’s going to take work to get pass these social injustices that we see and to build trust. If we can do this though, the world is going to be a much better place.
That’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, today’s society is influenced by the last generations social norms. If someone says something offensive, try to see why they think that way. Was it the way they were raised or did they have an experience that caused them to think that way? It’s best to seek to understand first than to be understood. This can be hard at times because you feel that there is something wrong but if you actually want to fix the situation, then this is the best path in my belief. My mom once said something that was offensive, and she is one of the nicest people in the world, but she grew up in a different time and I told her that was not a good thing to say in these times and this was like ten years ago. And she learned. So don’t be a jerk too and you this by using more honey than vinegar. But like always, this depends on the situation.
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