In this episode, we discuss how we need to focus on our stuff and not delegate our happiness to someone else.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about how when it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. This is a great lesson to be reminded of because when you do something new or trying to change something, there are going to people who disagree with you.
I remember like a year ago, I stopped doing Instagram Lives because I had an acquaintance who commented during a Live something snarky and that threw me off my game. It took me a long time to start doing Lives again and I started on Facebook Lives where my audience was smaller and I was not getting as much engagement. I should have kept up the Instagram Lives because I would probably be in a much more advanced place with my business.
Now I just getting back into doing Lives again and I should of just let that person think what they wanted. I’m not going to change his mind and he stopped following me so I should be fine again. We’re not going to make everyone happy and the best thing we can do is just focus on being a good person and do what makes us happy.
If you go on any comment section on any social media platform, you’re going to come across toxic people and one thing I hear on a lot of podcasts is not to look at the comment section. The nice people who like your stuff won’t comment, but the people who didn’t like your stuff will.
So let the trolls think what they think and take the high road. Also if you’re trying to do something new, people will think you’re crazy until you finally reach your goal. I see a lot of things wrong and I’m just working in silence on my stuff in order to save my slice of the world. I just get the satisfaction of knowing that I’m working on the important stuff and when you work on the important stuff, you’re not always going to get the glory.
I used to volunteer as a math tutor in Washington, DC and the lady that used to run the place, worked so hard to help these kids out and she is not going to get famous or rich off of this work but she is doing it because she believes it is the right thing to do. And this is how we should judge our actions. Is it the right thing to do and not because we’re trying to feel like important people.
When you have this mindset, then it’s much easier to let people think what they want. I just imagine them as test subjects in a lab and try to figure out why they think this way. This is much easier to dismiss their criticism and focus on my important work.
I only have so much time on this planet and I want to make sure that I’m filling my day with activities that are important to me. So I work, rest, and play when I feel like it. I know what is the perfect schedule for me and what activities belong in it, so I’m going to keep doing what I’m doing without worrying too much what other people think. I would care if I do something truly wrong but I will learn from that mistake and do better the next time around. Hopefully, this inspires you to look at your choices and continue to focus on what you think is important work and stop trying to be an important person.
And that’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it when it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. You’re not going to change people’s minds by arguing with them, and you definitely don’t want to change yourself to make someone else happy. There are over 7 billion people on this planet and you don’t need 7 billion close friends. Just focus on the best ones for you, whatever size that is, and let the other people think about what they want. This will make you a lot happier in the long run and you’re going to accomplish more important stuff.
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