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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons that you can reflect on in your journal so you can grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and have a better career, better relationships, and better personal finances while you enjoy your morning cup of coffee.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning for Latino Professionals.
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the need to learn how to turn crap into sugar when things go wrong. In Nassim Taleb’s book, The Black Swan, he talks about how things need to be broken down at times in order to become stronger. If you look at muscle fibers, when we work out, we are tearing the individual muscle fibers and this is why we feel sore, but when the muscle fibers repair themselves, they are going to be bigger and stronger.
If you look at businesses in the United States, an individual company is very fragile but all the companies together are very strong, but it requires a lot of fragile companies that are exposed to competition and uncertain business environments that create a strong system.
So when we look at ourselves, when things go wrong or things are being unstable, we can choose to see it as another freaking growth opportunity. We can repair the damage and become stronger from it. I was married for 9 years and that divorce that I went through made me a lot stronger as a person once I picked up the pieces and reflected on my marriage and what I could have done better.
The same thing can be said with all my businesses that I started. I failed at three but now I’m working on number four. I was able to use those previous three businesses as freaking growth opportunities. It wasn’t fun going through them, but I’m glad I did go through them.
When things go wrong for me, I try to have the perspective of what can I do to make this situation better or how can I upgrade my skills so I can grow myself out of this situation. This is an opportunity, not a threat. To me, this is the best way to look at life, just one big challenge and if life seems to be getting tougher, then congrats, you just leveled up.
To look at life any other way is not helpful. It’s playing the victim and playing the victim in life is not good for anyone. It’s about being saved and blaming others instead of looking for solutions. It’s easier to be the victim but victims don’t get much in life. Of course, we need help and we should ask for it when needed. I’ve reached out to people for advice and it was super helpful but what I did was take action. I don’t expect people to do the work for me. I have to do the work.
It’s been a journey but looking back at my past gives me satisfaction because I can see how much I’ve grown as a person. I feel like this is what is about, to see how much we can challenge ourselves until we reach self-mastery, and the key is that we’ll never reach self-mastery, but we can get very close to it if we treat everything as another freaking growth opportunity.
We will fail and things will be stressful, but with the right perspective and help, we can get stronger and then be able to handle tougher challenges and we probably going to need this skill sometime in the future, so let’s start training today.
And that’s it for today’s episode, to summarize it, don’t treat bad luck or setbacks as an opportunity to sulk, treat them as another freaking growth opportunity. One of the key things with the 10,000-hour rule which is the amount of time is required to become a master in a subject is that practice must be deliberate. You just can’t passively practice expecting to become a world champion. It’s going to take practicing things that are a little outside our range and until we get good enough to hit that target, and then we raise the bar a little bit higher. And we just keep doing this until we become world-class. We can get better but it’s going to require time and energy by taking some type of positive step forward. Do this with your career, relationships, and health, and you can have more control and freedom over your life.
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