In this episode, we discuss the importance of adding the right things to your schedule.
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Hi Everyone, welcome to the You’re Daily Cup of Joe Podcast, with your host Joe Bautista. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe, where I combine self-development coaching and financial planning. In this podcast, my goal is to give you quick lessons on how to grow yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so you can have better careers, better relationships, and better personal finances.
I’m also the author of the book “More You Know, More You Grow: How to Get Better Every Day”. In this book, I wrote down over 30 tips to help you grow in those four cornerstones. I’m also the founder of Grow With Joe where I combine financial planning with self-development coaching.
In today’s episode, we’re are going to talk about the technique to help you make better decisions. For me, I had a bad habit of always saying yes to everything. There was a party to go to, I would say yes. Then there would be another event to go to, and I would say yes to that as well.
The problem is when you do this, then you will have more activities on schedule then you can possibly go to and it starts to creep in other parts of your life and you will make sacrifices in your life like with your sleep, your diet, your workouts, your reading time, or other self-care activities.
The problem is that when you hear a request from somebody, that person is excited and you want to get the same emotional response by saying yes. One, we don’t want to disappoint that person that is right in front of us and we are just living in the moment and will say yes.
Then comes the moment where we actually have to do the thing and we feel regret like why did I say yes to do that thing.
We said yes because we didn’t want to disappoint that person and we got excited. I think it tends to be more of the excitement of saying yes. It sounds cool to go to a new restaurant or hiking, but you’re really not thinking about all the other things you have to do.
So to counteract this, you should use the six-day technique. So when somebody asks you to do something that is in the future, pretend that you have to do it in six days. If you had to do something in six days, would you still say yes?
You have to realize that time is scarce and that we should spend on the things that we truly enjoy. Somethings you should do because it’s the right thing to do that you might not enjoy, but you have to determine that as a person.
But by using this parameter for saying yes, that can relief a lot of stress. If I say yes to something that is a month from now, I have to make sure that I really need to do that thing and if I use the six-day technique, I can be a better judge to determine if that request is necessary for me or not.
You don’t want to say yes to something and then regret it all week to finally say no at the last second. You’re just going to piss off the other person because now they are going to scramble at the last second to fill in the gap and they might resent you for the rest of your life. So pull off that band-aid as soon as possible.
If you say no to someone, it’s not the end of the world. A good friend will understand that you don’t have time at the moment to say yes to their request. A bad friend will make you will bad and is that a friend that you want to have in your life? I know for myself, I don’t want that friend in my life because I have my own life to run.
If you start saying yes to the important things and no to the unimportant things in life, you’ll just live a much better life. What is important and not important is different to every person, and it’s our job to figure it out. In the beginning, you probably say yes to things that you have no clue if it’s important and unimportant and if you don’t know, then just say yes because that experience will tell you if you should continue doing stuff like that or that you should quit. In my 20s I said yes to a lot of things but now that I’m in my 30s, I say no to a lot more things because I know what is important to me.
Now I’m busy growing my business and I tend to only say yes to the things that will help me in my business. I need to ensure I generate enough business so I can keep the doors open and pay for my basic necessities. I have my income requirements and my metrics to tell me what I should be focusing on and need to do things that will improve those metrics.
If you don’t know what is important and no important then you will say yes to the unimportant things and no to the important things because you’re aimless in your day to day activities. Don’t give up your control is one of the key things that mentally strong people do. If you give up your control, then you will be a slave to the outside world.
So before you say yes to that extra project or to that event, look at your life and ask yourself will this help me or destroy me. Death by a thousand paper cuts is a very real thing. We just start saying yes to a bunch of little stuff and then it just becomes unmanageable. Then you have to figure out a way to start removing that stuff. The best way is to never get to that point but sometimes we just have to make the mistake before we actually learn from it. But if you can learn from other people’s mistakes, that will save you a lot of time and money and that’s why I’m sharing these podcasts with you so you can avoid making mistakes that will cost you time and money. Especially time because time is something that you can never get back.
Thanks for listening to today’s episode, to summarize it, if you have to make a decision that requires you do something in the future, imagine that you have to do that thing within six-day and if it’s still a yes, then go ahead and do it. If it’s a no, then say no as soon as possible. This will ensure you’re living to your true self and not being an impostor.
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